Many moons ago, I made a career out of selling tripods (anyone remember Aico International?).
There is no one-size-fits-all. Slik had around 25-30 models at one point all of which were a compromise of one sort or another of weight vs stability. A bigger heavier aluminium/magnesium tripod and head is ALWAYS going to be more stable than a lightweight carbon-fibre whizz-bang version. It's simple physics. Bigger/heavier = lower centre of gravity for a tripod of similar height and leg splay.
For value, used Manfrotto is hard to beat. For a 6' photographer the 055C is an excellent all round workhorse tripod with adjustable leg spread and split centre column. The 190. smaller, lighter and with an articulating centre column. I have both. Cost around £50 each on ebay.
Table top - I have a Minolta TR-1 (well, actually 2)- a Leitz table tripod with Minolta badge - ebay £25-£75 depending upon the mood of the seller. Rock steady on a flat surface..
I have a gigantic Manfrotto video tripod (public auction, £25 - presumably no bidders wanted to carry it home) with built in leveller. I added a 5/8" half spigot/stud to the top, attached a wall-plate with 5/8" socket to a sheet of 1/2" ply - I now have a variable height three legged shooting table with built in leveller and interchangeable platforms.
For weight saving, I have a carbon fibre Slik tripod. Four section legs, looks pretty, easy to carry, marks up easily. The Manfrotto 055/190 are more stable, more robust and more versatile at a fraction of the cost.
Heads. Benro 3 way pan-tilt. Nice head - arms are a bit short for manipulating a heavy camera, Arca Swiss compatible with safety lock feature.
Manfrotto magnesium ball head - my sturdiest ball head. With a boss adapter (ebay about £5-£10), the inconvenient Xpro platform can be replaced with an Arca platform of some sort.
Slik ball head - pretty, nicely made, light, another compromise - the Manfrotto ball head is more stable at twice the cost and three times the weight. Benro ball head with a rotating Arca platform for panos which is quite novel (I also have their rotating pano Arca plate/similar feature). Ball heads often have a panning base feature - but that's only useful if your tripod is absolutely level.
Best advice I can offer is put your gear into a bag and head off to the biggest photographic shop in your vicinity and spend a few hours in their shop going through everything they've got on display. Check the effectiveness of the leg locks, centre column drag and with the tripod firmly grounded, give the main hub a bit of a twist. You would be surprised just how little attention is given to the joints holding the legs on vs the leg extension locks on some models. Check that flip-clamp leg locks can be tightened - they will lose their effectiveness over time.
Failing that, monitor the ebay auctions. Tripods can be a pain to ship - sellers often put 'collection only' which attracts far fewer bidders and has a negative affect on the price achieved.
I particularly favour Manfrotto tripods when buying used - older Manfrottos (055 series #C on, 190 series, huge 075 series), can be completely stripped and serviced by the home user - nothing is riveted. Manfrotto spare parts are available for much of their range (old and new) in the event that something is broken.
Cheap modern Manfrottos with red plastic parts and ribbed tubular legs should be regarded as disposable.
When I get a spare hour I'll append the above with part numbers.